Spiritual Foundation & Purpose

Premarital Class – Lesson 1

Introduction

Before two lives come together in marriage, the most important question is not simply “Do we love each other?” but “Are we both walking with God?” A wedding lasts for a day; marriage is meant to last a lifetime. Without a shared spiritual foundation, couples often find themselves pulling in different directions, facing avoidable struggles. The Bible teaches in 2 Corinthians 6:14, “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.” Our spiritual walk shapes how we handle conflict, money, family, and purpose.

If we don’t build our marriage on the rock of God’s Word (Matthew 7:24–27), everything else is unstable. This first session is about asking: Are we building our marriage on a strong spiritual foundation?

Theme:

Where is this person in their walk with God?

Main Scriptures:

• 2 Corinthians 6:14 – “Do not be unequally yoked…”

• Amos 3:3 – “Can two walk together unless they are agreed?”

• Matthew 7:24–27 – “Build your house on the rock…”

Key Topics

Salvation & Discipleship

• Are we both genuinely saved and pursuing a real relationship with Jesus?

• Do we each have a consistent devotional life (prayer, Bible, church attendance)?

• Are we teachable and open to spiritual correction and guidance?

Spiritual Compatibility

• Do we help and challenge each other to grow spiritually?

• Can we pray, worship, and study God’s Word together?

• Do we share similar convictions about life, values, and priorities?

Calling & Kingdom Purpose

• What is God calling each of us to do individually?

• How do we envision serving God together as a couple?

• Is this relationship helping or hindering our spiritual purpose?

Accountability & Discipleship Relationships

• Who are we accountable to in our spiritual life?

• Do we have pastors, mentors, or spiritual leaders that speak into our lives?

• Do mature believers regularly check on our walk with God?

• Who are we helping?

• Are we discipling or encouraging others in their faith?

• Are we involved in ministry or service?

• Healthy accountability reflects spiritual maturity (Hebrews 13:17, Proverbs 11:14).

Spiritual Leadership & Submission

• What does spiritual leadership look like in our future home?

• Is the man prepared to lead lovingly and sacrificially (Ephesians 5)?

• Is the woman willing to submit and partner in spiritual unity?

• How do we view things like tithing, church involvement, and prayer as a couple?

Key Conversations to Have Together

• What does marriage mean to us in the eyes of God?

• Do we have a shared vision for life and faith?

• Who are our spiritual mentors or accountability partners?

• Who are we helping or discipling right now?

• Are we both ready to take spiritual responsibility for each other and our future family?

• What church will we attend and serve in as a married couple?

Red Flags to Watch For

• Unequally yoked: one person saved, the other not.

• Spiritual immaturity or inconsistent spiritual life.

• One-sided spiritual hunger.

• No accountability or covering from leaders.

• Secret sin, unresolved issues, or unwillingness to be corrected.

• Spiritual pride or resistance to biblical leadership and submission.